Talking with Leaders, Teachers, Coaches, Counselors, and Other Mentors

Imbalance of Power

Adults in mentoring positions can have significant power and influence in children’s lives, for better or for worse. That imbalance of power makes this a higher risk situation for potential abuse. Having conversations that demonstrate that you and your child are body safety educated, and asking questions that require leaders to uphold sound safety practices help lower the risk for your child, and every child within their influence.

Scripts

Here are some ideas for starting a conversation with your child’s mentor in a more comfortable and non confrontational way.

These examples include ideas for talking directly to the other mentor, or for talking to your child in a place where the mentor can hear your conversation.

6 Questions to Ask Before Sending Your Child to a Camp

1.What abuse prevention training do leaders/counselors receive?

How extensive or specific is that training and what are they trained to do?

2. What steps do you take to ensure leaders are never alone with campers?

The Rule-of-Three, no one-on-one time with leaders, leaders required to immediately report any instance of being alone with a camper, each group supervised by two adults

3. Do you teach the difference between telling and tattling and are campers encouraged to tell if something happens that makes them uncomfortable?

Are there multiple ways to tell, including anonymously, and will campers be instructed in how to do this?

4. What is your vetting process for leaders/counselors?

Background checks are rarely enough to reveal sexual abusers. Risk assessing interviews and reference checks are more effective.

5. How are campers and counselors/leaders supervised?

Constant supervision, regular unscheduled check-ins? How are more vulnerable times like free time, shower time, or transition times monitored?

6. What is your procedure for handling reports of red-flag or abusive behavior?

Is there a system in place to make sure each complaint receives attention and is addressed effectively?

Asking questions like these and following up can help ensure that summer camps stay fun and safe for all kids involved.